You have made a full day commitment to learn, meet new people, be creative, and have fun! I have been to many events/conferences and truthfully after a full day of amazing speakers, and a charismatic host. I do not recall to many closing remarks. They usually include many thank yous, gratitude, a few stories about the day maybe it finishes with a quote or question? There is nothing wrong this but again wanting to shake up things a little bit I was trying to think of some message that would wrap this whole summit up. What I realized is that this is a good format! The first section a thankyou, second section a story shared and the third section a call to action. What could we do to help people remember the feeling in this room?
First Section – Thank you is in a separate blog post right before this one.
Second Part – Thrive is a word we have been using a lot today and certainly for Leigh and I over the last 2 months. When I start a new project or research. I usually start with looking up the definitions — prosper, growth are all words that come to mind when we think of thrive…but in this case the thrive definition does not cut it for me. If your relationship or marriage is thriving there are images of amazing communication, physicality, passion, humor and joy. If your business is thriving – you are making money, lots of customers, happy employees etc. The word thrive for me is one of those words that have a lot of parts to it in order to truly achieve it. I also love words that sound the way they make you feel when you say them like thrive, joy or gumption.
I was raised in a family where the goal was to have work and play be one and the same. Removing the division between work and play meant true success. The base of this Summit was built around the belief that if you can find something to do that you love it will no longer feel like work and it will just be your life. What is the impact of this? It smudges out the line or division. You play in your passion. Many naysayers will say it is not possible to make a livelihood with my joy or passion and I wholeheartly disagree. It is not easy, it is hard, it is scary, it is risky but it is possible.
You guys were the brave ones to witness and be part of our life and work fusion. We have ate, slept, tweeted, posted and lived thrive for the last 2 months. The summit was a great way for Leigh and I to maintain integrity in our message and live with priorities like self care, being present, connecting, getting out of our comfort zones and all the different tasks someone needs to do to thrive.
However, there is one thrive practice that has helped me my entire life that I would like to share with you today. Our inner clock ticks at a much slower speed than that of society. Slowing our feet, our minds, our desires our impulses – stilling those things that drive us into faster and faster patterns of living will help open us to the transforming experience of waiting. That’s right. That is my pearl of wisdom. The word waiting even has a negative connotation in today’s society. Such as lazy…My dear friend and mentor when I was sharing what I wanted to say today rightly asked –Do I as the co-creator of Thrive really want to be known for telling people the joy of waiting??? The way I define waiting could be being still or present or mindful. It takes a lot of courage to wait. When we are so concerned to keeping the line moving forward on the outside, pushing ahead, keeping up we do not realize that the cost of this frenetic pace and at the expense of inward motion and wellbeing and something deep within us “walks backwards”.
I would like to share a story that demonstrates This “internal walking backwards” it is a beautiful story about 2 caterpillars Stripe and Yellow becoming butterflies. Hope for the the Flowers. By Trina Paulus
Before spinning their cocoon, they spent all their time (as did all the other caterpillars) climbing up a great column of “squirming, pushing caterpillars – a caterpillar pillar.” The point seemed to reach for the top. No one knew what was up there. They only hoped that the summit would offer them what they were looking for in life. But their existence was pretty frantic, with lots of rushing and straining. It boiled down to climb or be climbed on. Sound familiar?
Finally, disenchanted with crawling up, Stripe and Yellow became still. Soon they were at the bottom of the pile, relieved and comforted by their decision.
Yellow had seen another caterpillar spinning a cocoon and asked “if I decide to be a butterfly….what do I do?” Watch me “ came the reply. “I’m making a cocoon. It looks like I’m hiding I know, but a cocoon is no escape. It’s an in-between house where change takes place…During the change, it will seem…that nothing is happening, but the butterfly is already becoming. It just takes time. Yellow had been afraid, but she took the risk and spun her own cocoon later to emerge and unfold her wings. These words have stuck with me all week – A cocoon is no escape….it just takes time.”
Stripe has his own journey to figure out that is rightful place is to be a butterfly. As he heard his own message he realizes that he misread his instinct to get high. To get to the top he must fly not climb. Stripe looked at each caterpillar inebriated with joy that there could be a butterfly inside.
To their delight, they found that the wings were the only way to get to the top.
Thus Stripe and Yellow made their deepest progress being still.
When I take the time to think and be quiet, pray or meditate we become in tune with the quiet and our thoughts.
One of the hardest things we found in promoting this Summit was addressing the questions is this a business or lifestyle event. We are so quick to compartmentalize work and life. Why is that? Because for most of the people out there they are not happy with what they do for most of their day “called work” There are some crazy stats out there and we are wondering why stress, anxiety, depression is growing at an alarming rate. Just by you being here —our early adopters – you are aware and constantly working on smudging that line out.
3rd Section – Call To Action
Our goal of course was for you to at least come out with one task or tip you can assimilate into your daily life and work tomorrow. I would like to ask you to wait a little tomorrow and here that inward motion.
I would like to challenge you to continue to do and work and live your life with joy, no divider. Be the butterflies and share the message that it is possible! For those that are in the cross roads, I challenge you to consider making a shift and find something that joy becomes a measure of your success. This may mean having the courage to wait, listen and hear your inward motion.
If I had a glass I would raise it – and Toast. Here’s to thriving On!